Arkhive (they/she)

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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • It’s sort of the femme version of my given name. There’s a lot of history in my family with that name that I do appreciate and value and want to feel connected to. I did a bunch of research into the names and language of where my family originated and found my new name and instantly fell in love with it. I remember sobbing after writing it down for the first time.












  • Ooo! I like this! I’m trans femme and nonbinary and often use T4T to describe myself because I think I could really only be with people that “get it”. While it’s largely true, there are people that probably wouldn’t consider themselves trans, but are queer in the way that makes them “get it” that I would be perfectly comfortable with. “Queerian” seems to sort of broaden the trans umbrella in a helpful way, while also shifting the focus away from binary trans folk, who, while of course valid in their desires for binary transition, aren’t really queer in the way I mess with.








  • I do this a lot too, and most of my friends are very understanding, which has also prompted me to get better about remembering what they were saying so I can recenter the conversation on them once my tangent is over. I had an ex (both of us non-binary) that really couldn’t get past that and see it for what my other friends do (the ‘tism) and only perceived as my (amab on feminizing hrt) talking over them (afab not on hrt) in a “domineering man” kind of way, even though they have way more traditionally masc traits then me (competitiveness, impatience, over confidence in their understanding of things to a point of stubbornness…). I really liked them and thought they understood because they’re also neurodivergent, but just couldn’t get over it or learn to work with it, or even give me the time to improve on it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Glad your friend seems to be on board!!


  • I’m a fan of taking turns “driving” for slower paced logic or puzzle games. Titles that come to mind:

    • Myst
    • Curse of the Golden Idol
    • Summertime Madness
    • Chants of Sennar
    • Superliminal
    • Viewfinder
    • Baba is You

    I can highly recommend all of these as they almost universally benefit from more minds working on them together. I would say Baba is the only one that gets REALLY challenging, but there are good mind and logic bending puzzles throughout them all!

    EDIT: I’ll also add that Myst, Golden Idol, and Chants of Sennar (Summertime Madness maybe a little) all benefit from solid note taking and map making This provides a great job for the “copilot” while the other person is managing the actual input device.